We all have it, you know what I’m talking about…. that annoying blabber mouth of negative chitter chatter in your head that just doesn’t know how to shut the hell up….ever!!!! Well, I’m fixing to tell you the secret to getting “her” to shut up!!! She’s a blabber mouth so she will not shut up for good. You will have to be as persistent as “she” is, but if you just treat her in these same ways every time she starts running her head, she will shut up each & every time and will eventually come less often!
Before we begin with the ways to get “her” to shut up, let me tell you a little about “her”, just to make sure we’re on the same page here. I’ll start with why I’m calling this negative chitter chatter “her” or “she”…. I refer to it this way because the voice you hear sounds like YOU. So, for us wives….that is a “she”!
It sounds like us because I guess in a way it is us. It’s our own thoughts….our fears, guilt, worries, anxieties, self doubts & self criticism. In many cases that annoying little voice in our heads are destroying us….destroying our self image, destroying our dreams, destroying our happiness, destroying our marriages, destroying our lives! She is quick to tell us, “you can’t do that!” “What if this or that happens?” “You’re not smart enough, pretty enough, skinny enough…..” No one wants to talk to hear what you have to say!” She is every negative thought that pops into your head & just doesn’t seem to go away until you finally give up on whatever it is you we’re wanting to achieve!
She often times comes in very subtle and can be hard to recognize unless you are expecting her. So constantly be expecting her, she will come each and everyday until you learn to put her in her place!
So What’s The Secret To Getting That Negative Chitter Chatter In Your Head to Shut Up?
Outtalk her!!! (Out think her, I guess is a better way to put it!) Everytime she comes blabbing that negative chitter chatter in your head about how you’re not good enough, how nobody likes you, how so & so is talking about you behind your back, how you’re not smart enough to get a job like that, how you’re not pretty enough or skinny enough! ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!! Put her in her place and tell her where she can go! Tell her how good you are, how smart you are, how beautiful you are, how friendly you are, how people do like you, how you Can do that, how you can handle whatever happens, because YOU ARE and YOU CAN!!!
Find an affirmation or quote or two about whatever you are struggling with. Hang them on your fridge, your mirror, in your car….put them all over the place! Memorize them and repeat them to yourself over and over again! I could say it’s as simple as that, but I would be lying to you. This is not a simple task. You have got to be persistent because she definitely will be! Every time you have a negative thought replace it with a positive one. This won’t happen over night, but if you won’t give up, before you know it, you will have built and boosted yourself some awesome self confidence in yourself!!
Before I Go:
Here are some self confidence boosting quotes to get you started right now!
Worrying won’t stop the bad things in life from happening, it just stops you from enjoying the good stuff in life!
You are AMAZING!
Being positive does not mean ignoring the negative, it means overcoming the negative!
You are BeYOUtiful just the way YOU are!!
You CAN do anything you set your mind to do!
You are smarter than you think you are!
Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain!
Wake Up, Smile, and Tell yourself TODAY IS MY DAY!!
If you struggle with that blabbering negative chitter chatter in your head I hope this helped you out! We all get it!!! I struggle with it myself and have to remind myself to think positive lots of days! Comment below & share with us how you outtalk the negative chitter chatter in your head!
Until next time, Go be the “Spiced Up Wife” in your hubby’s life!